Lack of motivation can crush you, literally cripple you from taking action. If youâre sick of suffering from a lack of motivation, youâre in luck, because youâre about to learn the 8 major reasons why youâre short on the motivational energy you need to successfully accomplish your goals⊠And exactly how to fix each of them. By the time youâre done reading (or listening) this, youâll have the knowledge you need to unleash the motivational powerhouse within you. Letâs dive in. Scroll down to keep reading, or click the Play button below to hear the podcast version (which has two parts.)
Table of contents
- You donât know what you want.
- Youâre not in control of your physiology.
- Youâve made âlack of motivationâ part of your identity.
- Youâre not aiming high enough.
- Youâre overwhelmed.
- Youâre prone to procrastination.
- Youâre not being specific enough to spur motivation.
- Youâre seeking motivation where you should be seeking habits.
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1.
You donât know what you want.
Of all the reasons responsible for why you might be lacking in the motivation department, this first one is by far the most common: Either you donât know what you want, or thereâs a lack of clarity about what you want.
Whenever I do goal-setting workshops with people or with organizations, one of the first questions I ask is, âWhat do you want?â
Youâd be surprised by how many people are unable to give me a compelling response to that question.
In other words: Whatâs the outcome youâre after?
What would it look like if everything were to go exactly as planned or better?
Itâs tough to get motivated to do anything at all if weâre unsure about what weâre after in the first place.
Conversely, once we take those fuzzy dreams we have and bring them into focus by writing them out as goals, the motivation flows naturally.
If you ask a typical sports fanatic about their favorite team, they can give you so many statistics itâll make your head spin. They can give you all the details you need to know about a team and its playersâfrom speed to points per game and on and onâŠ
But when someone asks them about the details of their own life, they can barely remember what they had for dinner last night.
And itâs not a matter of intelligence, either.
Hereâs the thing: most people are about as intelligent as they make up their minds to be.
If it were a matter of intelligence, they wouldnât have such an in-depth understanding of their favorite teamâs stats.
Itâs not about intelligence.
Itâs about focus.
If you lack motivation in any area of your life, itâs likely because you havenât decided in detail what you want in that area. And we canât focus on something if we donât know what weâre aiming for.
SOLUTION(S):
- The solution to the first reason why most people have a lack of motivation is simple. Keep in mind that you canât hit a target that you cannot see. That said, identify some compelling, exciting goals for yourself in each of the major areas of your life â physical, financial, emotional, spiritual, etc. â and write them down.
2.
Youâre not in control of your physiology.
Take a moment to picture in your mind what a person who has a lack of motivation actually looks like, physically.
If a person is unmotivated, how do they stand?
How do they sit? Do they have good posture or bad posture?
Are their shoulders pulled back or slumped over forward? Is their back upright or rounded?
Now imagine what a person whoâs totally motivated looks likeâŠ
How does a person with motivation stand? Close and narrow, or open and upright?
How does a motivated person walk? Head held low, or head held high? Are their shoulders slumped forward, or pulled back nicely as they walk?
How do they sit? Howâs their posture? Is their back bent forward, or are they sitting upright? How do they speak? How do they stand?
Heyâwhat if I told you that you could instantly motivate yourself by mimicking the images of a motivated person that you just pictured in your mindâs eye?
SOLUTION(S):
Motion leads to motivation. If you want to get motivated, learn to control your physiological state. Hereâs how:
- first, figure out what kinds of movements you naturally make when youâre feeling motivatedâŠ
- Then, do those things and your mind will follow your body.
Youâll begin to feel more motivated when you put yourself in a position to actually feel more motivation. You do that with your body. Move like you move when youâre motivated. Stand like you stand when youâre motivated.
Hereâs my sillyâyet incredibly effectiveâprocess for using my body to elevate my motivation: Jump in the air. Clap your hands. And yell out, âWHOOOOOO!â at the top of my lungs.
Just try it and see if it doesnât change your state.
See this article + podcast for more on this topic: Action Leads to Motivation »
3.
Youâve made âlack of motivationâ part of your identity.
Have you ever seen someone make a mistake of some kind, and then follow it up by saying something like, âIâm so stupidâ?
Thatâs an example of someone whoâs just identified with their mistakeâŠ
But what if, instead of saying, âIâm so stupidâ they said, âI just did something stupidâ?
Yah see, thereâs a big difference those two statements.
The first statement identifies you with your mistake.
This means you and your mistake are one.
The second statement makes a clear separation between you and your mistake.
This means that YOU are not stupid, but that you simply did something stupid.
Do you constantly reaffirm to yourself that youâre demotivated? Do you tell people that you âneed to get motivated,â or that you just âdonât have the motivation to do itâ right now?
If you repeat something often enough, it sticks.
One reason you may have a lack of motivation might be because youâre constantly identifying as someone whoâs âunmotivated.â
So whatâs the solution?
SOLUTION(S):
- Reverse the pattern. Make it clear to yourself that you do not identify as an unmotivated person, but are instead the type of person who feels incredibly motivated on a regular basis. YOU = Motivated.
- Keep in mind: identity-based mental patterns can get messy. It can take serious work to get yourself to stop thinking of yourself as an unmotivated person, and to replace it with the mindset of someone whoâs motivated, but you can do it. And it all starts with deciding that youâll no longer think of yourself as an unmotivated person, and to then reinforce that decision on a daily basis until it becomes a habitâuntil you become a motivated person.
4.
Youâre not aiming high enough.
Whatever we seek to accomplish â writing a book, losing weight, achieving the perfect relationship with our significant others â itâs the degree of desire we have to accomplish those goals that ends up becoming the crucial element to achieving them. But too many people try to set limits on their desire. They tell themselves and others that they donât need wild success. But this kind of thinking is dangerous because when we limit the scope of our desire, we limit the scope of what weâre willing to do to reach our goals. And when we limit the scope of what weâre willing to do, we limit the scope of our motivation.
A lack of exciting and desirable goals easily takes far too many people down the road of lackluster levels of motivation.
If you limit your potential success, you will limit what you are willing to do to create itâwhich limits your motivation, not to mention your general sense of fulfillment about the life you lead.
The solution to this problem is whatâs known as The 10X Rule, which states that: You must set targets that are 10 times what you think you want and then do 10 times what you think it will take to accomplish those targets.
While some folks will tell you that setting impossible goals kills motivation, and that itâs better to âunderpromise and overdeliver,â this line of thinking is actually foolish. 10X-targetsâcommonly called stretch goalsâwill only spur you on harder, to do more and try more than you ever have before. Besides, even if we fall short of achieving our 10X-level aims and ambitions, better to fall short of achieving a massive target than merely achieving a tiny one⊠Because if you aim high enough, youâll demand more from yourself and become better in pursuit of a massive goal.
But setting a high target is only the first step. The second step is to take 10 times the amount of action you think is necessary to reach that target.
SOLUTION(S):
- When weâve got puny, uninspiring goals, we tend to feel lethargic and unmotivated to achieve them. On the flip side, when weâve got huge and ambitious goals, we feel empowered and invigorated to take action towards achieving them. Bottom line? Set massive goals. Take massive action.
- Push yourself to your outermost limits. Youâll find that the more action you take, the more motivated you become to continue doing even more.
5.
Youâre overwhelmed.
Have you ever been so stressed, so overwhelmed, under so much pressure â that youâd rather say, âScrew it, I donât even careâ than to continue marching forward with whatever youâre trying to do?
Whatever the cause, one thing we know about being overwhelmed (or stressed to the gills) is that it can drain motivation, big time.
Itâs hard to get motivated when youâre overwhelmed.
Now, obviously, if youâre overwhelmed, one solution might simply be that you need to take a break and get some rest⊠But in all honesty, I donât think thatâs the problem for most people. Most people donât need more rest, they need more action.
That said, here are a couple of practical solutions to get yourself back on track if youâre suffering from a stress-related lack of motivationâŠ
SOLUTION(S):
- Maybe you took that point I made earlier â about aiming higher and 10X-ing your goals to get you motivated â to heart. But maybe you also aimed a little higher than your current capabilities. If thatâs the case, lower the bar â bit-by-bit â until you hit your sweet spot (which is somewhere between your current capabilities and a goal thatâs just hard enough to achieve that youâve gotta stretch to achieve it).
- Or, maybe youâve just got way too many things on your plate. If thatâs the case, itâs time to pair down and focus on crushing one big goal at a time, rather than trying to do too many things simultaneously. Itâs like that old saying, âIf you chase two rabbits, you wonât even catch one.â
- And finally, perhaps the most important thing you can do when youâre overwhelmed is to think about WHY youâre doing what youâre doing. If the whyâthe reason(s) you do what you doâis compelling enough, then youâll be able to gather the motivation you need to succeed.
- For example, whenever Iâm drained or feeling stuck on something Iâm working on, I remind myself about all the reasons why I do what I do in the first place: to inspire people like you to improve their lives and achieve their goals; to provide for my family; to be a model of excellence that my daughter can be proud of; to make a meaningful contribution to society. Find your why.
6.
Youâre prone to procrastination.
Another thing that can cause overwhelmâwhich leads to a massive depletion of motivationâis when we donât have enough clarity about what to do next.
This ambiguity leads to procrastination.
And procrastination leads to a lack of motivation.
Hereâs how to fix this one: Chunk things down to an immediate, doable action.
SOLUTION(S):
Take whatever it is that you lack the motivation to do, and chunk it down to an immediate, doable next action you can take immediately.
For example, Iâm working on putting together a major course right now thatâs designed to help people transform their lives in virtually every way possible so that they can improve their lives and achieve their goals. Itâs a 30-day life mastery program that shares everything Iâve learned about the subject of Personal Development.
This involves a ton of work on my part: from structuring the curriculum, to putting together worksheets, to recording the audio sessions, to a million things in between.
I was thinking about this workload recently, and I felt incredibly overwhelmed and demotivated because of the sheer volume involved with a project like this. And just as I was about to curl up in the fetal position in the corner of my office, I realized I needed to take my own damn advice and chunk this thing down.
Instead of thinking about everything that needed to get done, I decided to ask myself, whatâs âone thing I can do right now to make progress on this goal?â The answer to that, for me, was to write out the outline. Which I did. And the sense of motivation that began to bubble up as I started doing it was remarkable.
So, hereâs the key: if youâre low on motivation, think about whether you need to chunk things down into something doable to move the ball forward. And if thatâs the problem, chunk your project (or whatever youâre not motivated about) into something doableâand then do it!
7.
Youâre not being specific enough to spur motivation.
Motivation is like a fickle, fleeting, emotional creature with ADHD. Itâs difficult to get it to focus on a single thing for an extended period of time⊠Unless you provide it with very specific directions.
One reason you might have a lack of motivation is that youâre leaving things too open.
When things are vague, the motivation will fade.
When youâre unable to tap into the motivation you need to succeed, it might be because whatever thing you want to get motivated for is too vague. Here are a few examples of common goals that are way too vague:
- Wake up earlier.
- Exercise more.
- Eat healthily.
If you were to choose any of the above examples, hereâs how things would most likely play out:
Youâll start off with tons of motivation at the very beginningâŠ
But after a little while, youâll notice that the motivation fades away and loses its potency.
So, whatâs the fix?
SOLUTION(S):
- Give your brain specific and actionable directions. Doing this will provide it with the controlled focus it needs in order to unleash the motivational energy youâre looking for.
- An excellent way to drill down and get specific is to ask yourself questions. Hereâs a great one that can narrow things down and, as a result, spark some motivation: âHow will I know that Iâm successful?â
- Answer that question with something specific and measurable.
Letâs say, for example, that you want to run a marathon six months from today. You know you need to train hard in order to prepare and condition yourself for the big day, but you lack the motivation to do soâŠ
Hereâs how you might put a specific plan together in order to spark motivation when you need it most; and even more importantâsustain that motivation until marathon-day:
- How will I know that Iâm successful?
- Iâll run my first marathon. (This is your ultimate goal, or âstretch goal.â)
- Specific: (This is a specific sub-goal to help you achieve your stretch goal.)
- Run 7 miles without stopping or walking.
- Measurable: (This is the method(s) youâll use to measure success/progress)
- Iâll be able to run twice around the park without walking.
The more specific you make the actions and habits you need to take up, the smaller they become. And the smaller the action, the easier it is to motivate yourself to do it. Eventually, those small, specific steps you take on a daily basis will stack on top of one anotherââwhich leads to a sustained sense of motivation and accomplishment.
For more on how to make specific plans to crush your goals, read or listen to this: How to Use Stretch Goals and S.M.A.R.T. Goals »
8.
Youâre seeking motivation where you should be seeking habits.
The final reason most people suffer from an ongoing lack of motivation is simply because, at the end of the day, none of us can be motivated all the time. Often times, people say to me, âwow, youâre so motivated.â But hereâs the truth: I just look like Iâm motivated all the time, when in reality Iâve just been diligent about installing several keystone habits in the areas of my life that matter to me most.
You see, I donât have to muster up the motivation to get up at 5 AM every morning, because itâs a habit.
I donât have to motivate myself to focus on writing every day, because itâs a habit.
I donât have to get motivated to go to the gym every day, because itâs a habit.
I donât have to motivate myself to do anything that Iâve become habituated to in my life, because habits are things we do regularly and automatically with little or no conscious thought or effort.
So, hereâs the real question:
How do you develop habits?
SOLUTION(S):
In general, any habit can be broken down into a three-part loop that goes like this:
- Cueâsomething in your environment that sets off a habit. (You smell fresh cookies.)
- Routineâthe set of actions you take in response to the cue. (You eat the cookies.)
- Rewardâthe results or feelings you get/experience from executing the actual habit. (You enjoy the reward of delicious-ness⊠And, if you knew you shouldnât have eaten that cookie, that feeling will be followed by the negative ârewardâ of guilt from eating the cookie.)
Hereâs a 5-step plan on how to develop a habit that you might typically think requires tons of motivation to stick with. You can use it as a guide for creating a habit of your own:
Letâs say you lack the motivation to exercise, and youâd like to change that by developing the habit of going to the gym five days a week.
- Step 1. Identify the habit:
- Develop a gym habit, whereby Iâll workout five days a week.
- Step 2. Identify your CUE:
- Every habit has a trigger, identify one that regularly works for you.
- Iâll set my alarm to wake me up at 6 am every morning so that I can exercise before work.
- Step 3. Identify the REWARD:
- What reward will you give yourself at the end of the behavior/habit. The reward can be anything, the key is the craving.
- Delicious protein shake, sense of accomplishment, endorphin rush.
- Step 4. Execute the ROUTINE:
- The routine is the actual activity/behavior you want to become a habit.
- Drive to the gym and exercise.
- Step 5. Write it down, make it happen:
- The simplest and most effective way to form a new habit is to write a plan. Use the following formula to write yours:
- When ________,cue I will ________routine because it provides me with ________reward.
- When my alarm clock goes off at 6 am, cue I will jump out of bed and drive straight to the gym to exercise for 60 minutes routine because it provides me with a healthy lifestyle, a fit physique, and an energetic start to my day reward.
- The simplest and most effective way to form a new habit is to write a plan. Use the following formula to write yours:
Quick recap: 8 things that cause your lack of motivation (and what to do about them)
- You donât know what you want. Gain clarity by setting some goals.
- Youâre not in control of your physiology. Create some âpower movesâ to jolt body into an actionable, motivated state.
- Youâve made âlack of motivationâ part of your identity. Reframe your beliefs as those of someone whoâs highly motivated.
- Youâre not aiming high enough. 10x your goals. 10x your actions.
- Youâre overwhelmed. Find your WHY. Simplify. Do one thing really well rather than a million things poorly.
- Youâre prone to procrastination. Break big things into smaller, actionable steps. Chunk. it. down!
- Youâre not being specific enough to spur motivation. Be as specific as possible about what you want and what you need to do.
- Youâre seeking motivation where you should be seeking habits. Sustain your motivation by tapping into the power of habit.